I used to be streetwise, many years ago, but then I changed into an embarrassing mother of an almost teenager and now I'm uncool. Thing is I still feel young and streetwise and a little bit cool. I got dressed up on Saturday into what I'd class as trendy clothes and tried to make myself look cool so as not to embarrass Amy. But she didn't mention my efforts. What she did mention however, was that she thinks she has a fat tummy (which she doesn't) and there's no way she's going to wear her denim jacket in public unless it's fastened to hide said fat tummy. I found this quite upsetting. I'm not naive enough to think kids of Amy's age aren't self conscious but the fact that when she wears jeans and a t'shirt, she does actually look very attractive. She's very tall for her age and would easily pass for a 16 year old but I try my best to buy her clothes suitable for her age range. Ironically, she isn't streetwise like I was at her age, but she is trendy and keeps up with all the latest pop singers, though I wouldn't say she was into fashion as much as the next 12/13 year old girl might be.
We went to the Metro Centre in Gateshead which is a huge shopping mall, far too big and bustling for the likes of a country bumpkin like me. I know anything goes in the fashion world these days but some of the clothes worn (or not, in most cases) by young girls were enough to make your eyes water. We buy lots of Amy's clothes in New Look, a rather trendy but reasonably priced fashion shop, and she managed to pick out some nice things. But she tried one dress on that although looked very nice on the hanger, looked absolutely awful on her. If she'd stood on a street corner in a red light district, she wouldn't have looked out of place. I ordered her to take it off immediately and just said it didn't suit. I don't want to be an uncool mum who won't let her teenage daughter choose her own clothes or wear the hottest trends, but some clothes on these rails are just simply inappropriate for a child of Amy's age. I'd rather be the embarrassing country bumpkin mum who wouldn't know cool if she put her head in a freezer than spend my money on tarty clothes and have my daughter walking round looking like a trollop.
My blogging friend, Vegemitevix, has a daughter the same age and recently wrote about a similar subject concerning emotional issues in teens.