Friday, 30 November 2012

Blogging: I Can't Do This Anymore

I'm losing the will to blog. It's beginning to piss me off how I'm feeling left out and left behind because of my lack of technical knowledge. I'd like to think I'm an intelligent person; I run a business and have a hot head when it comes to taking no shit, but social media and the never ending list of sites, gadgets, thingamajigs and stuff everyone and his dog seems to be a part of is starting to get on top of me. I know I'm not expected to know about Technorati, Wikio, Reddit, Google Plus, Digg, Flickr, StumbleUpon, LinkedIn, stick it up ya jacksie and kiss me arse, but so many of my blogging friends are involved with these platforms and a lot more besides. In a nutshell, I don't understand them. My head simply won't get to grips with them and whenever someone tries to give me information and advice about them it just doesn't sink in.

Every single day I learn about a new place to promote a blog, to be included in forums, to be in yet another circle, and every single day I say to myself, "what a wonderful day."

It's all getting on top of me and I'm not liking it one bit. I'm trying so hard to be part of various blogging groups but feel I'm swimming in a different ocean to the rest of the members. Probably even on a different planet. I've always been told I live on another planet, maybe this is what they meant all along. I get confused with all the blog talk, the social media gumpf, the crap we're supposed to do in order to 'be seen.' I am seen. You're seeing me now. Look, you're reading my blog.

But it just feels as though it isn't enough anymore. And to be quite frank, I'm sick of it.

You know how much I love to blog; it's a huge part of my life. It's given me confidence and knowledge and friends and grief. Some people see me as 'established' and 'experienced'. But I see myself as an old-has-been; a blogger who can no longer keep up with the demands of modern social media and the never-ending need to be one step ahead. This year has put so many obstacles in my way in so far as technical issues are concerned that I think I've just about had enough. I'm sick of Google having the upper hand; I'm sick of Blogger making up rules as they go along; I'm sick of wanting to change my host but being too scared to do it; I'm sick of the competition and the jealousy, the bitterness and the point-scoring, and I'm sick of blogging full stop.

So I've decided not to add a blog post during December and see where I go from there. I might come back with a vengeance in January or I might try something else, like housework. The bottom line is, I LOVE writing, but I'm not technical and the way blogging has gone, technophobe + blog = bad combination.

I'll be around on Twitter and Facebook - I can just about find my way around those two okay - and I'll be dipping into my blogrolls and other blogs, probably more than usual because I won't be worrying about publishing my own posts for a month. It had to come. I'm annoyed that it has, but it's a long-overdue break and one I think might help me to understand why the average Joe Public is now expected to be Mark Zuckerberg's clone.

Bye for now
CJ x

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  1. CJ, you will be missed. I completely understand where you're coming from though. Sometimes we all need a break. For my part, I sincerely hope you'll be back with all guns blazing in January. Won't be the same without you. x

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  2. You're not alone. No-one can do all the platforms - and not everyone will ever use the same one at the same time. A bit like what brand you buy or the difference between VHS and betamax - or just 'what's cool'. Do it for your own reasons - those who know you will engage and you'll never reach everyone on the planet. It's all about content - people will find you if the subject matter is something they're searching on.

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  3. I won't say I'm not gutted as I think you're fantastic, your no-bullshit way of writing is a breath of fresh air, but I'm secretly hoping you'll spend December missing it so much that in January you'll be back with a bang! Much love ccc

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  4. CJ, I think the fact that you are established - or an old has been (or bean :-) ) as you call it - in spite of all these things you can't grasp, proves you DON'T need them.

    You have a popular well read, well commented blog, without those things. I'd suggest you don't need them.

    As for the self hosting malarchy, I may be about to do it, maybe, so will let you know how I get on, but I am sure you have enough geek friends in the bloggy world who will jump to help when they know you are feeling like this.

    I know the thing with 1GB on blogger was the final straw so maybe time to leave blogger, not blogging, but maybe no harm to have a month off either.

    Anyway you will be sorely sorely missed, so I hope the break brings you back fighting fit.

    Lots of love, Liska x

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  5. I'm technical, I've got a background in programming. But basically I blog, and spend my time on twitter. As well as the niche aspect and general eclectic subject matter of my blog, I daresay that is why I don't win awards or get huge traffic. Occasionally it bugs me. But most of the time I don't care.

    Take a break if you need to, but I'm hoping you'll be back. You're a great blogger, and I think that that is what brings ppl here, not existence and participation on 27 social networks. (I love that my phone always tries to put suicidal.)

    And as for the self hosting stuff, if you do want to go through it, I'm very happy to talk through it, phone, email, Skype, whatever suits. I've been helping technophobes for years, and I like to think I'm good at it. We do have a business doing websites now, but first and foremost the help and advice I give is from me and free :)

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  6. funnily enough my post for ranty Friday was going to be on exactly this. This feeling that we are no longer just blogging but promoting / competing / monetising (a word I hate).

    I hate it and totally get where you are coming from. I do hope you come back though. I love your blog

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  7. I know just what you're feeling (although I do see you as more established and respected in the blogging world than me - and you're NOT an old fart!)
    I was lucky to have a blogging partner when I started out who is a technical whiz.
    When she decided to stop blogging with me a couple of months ago, I really considered giving up at the end of the year. I don't even know how to add things to the site. She did everything.
    But I've changed my attitude. I'm posting once a week now. I do Facebook and Twitter and that's it. My head explodes if I try to work out all the others.
    And as of January, I'm going to blog when the mood takes me. For fun. And just hope that people might read. I'm not checking rankings. I'm just doing my thing.
    You do what feels right for you, but I will miss you. You've been a great read and a very supportive presence in the blogging world since I wandered in and stood shyly in the corner.
    In my opinion, you don't need to keep up with the others. Your writing speaks for itself.
    Hope a break over Christmas helps you recharge your batteries.
    xxx

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  8. Oh CJ :-(

    I'm sad that you feel sad about it and I echo all of the above comments. Good to know that you'll be around on Twitter and Facebook though - I'll catch you over there.

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  9. So sorry that you feel like this, and especially that you feel under pressure to keep up with all the technical stuff. I don't think that every blogger has to do that: what readers really REALLY want is good content, something interesting or useful to read. That's what you provide here and that's why people keep coming back and will keep coming back, so I hope you do too xxx

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  10. I have not commented before - I agree with you. I have simply refused to become a member of Facebook (after they had a security scare) and Twitter to me sounds a bad place, a place where epoloe bad mouth each other - any way not for me! Hope you have a peaceful December.

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  11. I think everyone else has already pretty much said what I was going to say, but just wanted to add another voice of support here. Hope you're back in January x

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  12. I think it's very healthy to take a break when you've had enough. And you of all people don't need to worry about all the ranking's crap. You have one of the most popular blogs about and few have a following like you. Readers come to read your writing and about you and btw I love that header photo - just gorgeous! Wishing you a peaceful December xx

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  13. I'll miss you. One thing I learnt early on (from people like you) is: your blog your rules and at the end of the day it has to be something you enjoy. You also taught me that the main thing is good content and that, to me, remains a whole lot more important than design or rankings.

    Then there's also how you make your readers connect with you, relate to you and what you write... And how you connect back with them.

    Don't forget you're not the only technically challenged one, what we need is a cheap service that does this for us or a platform that also does it for us.

    I blog when I can and I have unwittingly taken a whole month's break before just because work and life were so busy. Nothing happened, everyone was still there when I got back and in fact, to my surprise, they had missed me.

    Just remember you're not a has-been, you're who people like me learn from.

    Enjoy your break and, remember, should your finger be itching to blog: blog. Your blog, your rules! Even if you break your own non-blogging rule!

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  14. I have to wholeheartedly disagree with Lindsay - Twitter is a wonderful place where I have found a never ending support network. I've not yet witnessed anyone badmouthing anyone on there.

    CJ you will be much missed but I hope you come back fighting in jan.

    I'm no techie either and don't understand many of the networks either. I followed tots100 video tutorial to the letter to set up my self host. I try to learn something neweach day, at my own pace. But I don't think they are essential. Don't get bogged down by it - its ur blog, do what you want to do with it. Xx

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  15. Snap! I know that feeling too and I figured I can't do everything, I am unable to compete so I'll just plod along at my own merry speed and if they like it good and if they don't tough. I totally understand wanting to step back and take a breath, see where it's going but give up? Only if I really have to.
    We don't NEED all that other stuff, it's helpful, it's there if you want to use it and many do but it's not an essential part of blogging.
    Enjoy your December don't go silly on the housework - I'd hate you to become addicted to that! and hopefully see you in January

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  16. What everyone above has said! But you know what - we all need a break from blogging from time to time and I really don't believe you have to be on every social media platform going - your writing will speak for itself! Enjoy the break x

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  17. December off is s good plan. Also on return why don't you just write posts. No promotion, no gadgets, thingies or other distractions, just write. Take the stress out of blogging. Writing is the sky, the rest is just weather. X

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  18. I will miss you, hope to see you back in January. Enjoy the break! X

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  19. Oh my. I see where you are coming from though. I do blogging changing pace a bit lately too, there seems more monetisation and with money comes inevitable petty jealousies and competitiveness.

    I suppose one of the joys of having your own blog is that is just that your own blog. There's no pressure - or at least there shouldn't be. Sadly I think everyone feels the pressure to 'keep up' a lot more just very sad to see you going even if only for a while x

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  20. As others have said, your blog is amazing because of you and your writing. And all the best blogs have that at their heart. All the other stuff - Facebook and G+ and Pinterest and Twitter etc etc - is just there if you want it. If you don't do that stuff, nobody minds.

    Like I always say the 1 and only rule for me about blogging is to do what makes you happy. If you're doing stuff and it isn't making you happy, something's wrong. And if someone tries to make you feel you SHOULD do something to "be seen" well, they don't get blogging, in my book.

    Take a break, come back, write something awesome. That suits you.

    And if you ever do want to move away from Blogger, the wonderful thing about blogging is there are always a ton of people out there who are utterly generous with their time and advice and would love to help you, I know.

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  21. You will be greatly missed. I know exactly where you are coming from the blogging world seems to have changed in the last few months, its becoming too competitive.

    Enjoy the break and I look forward to seeing you soon xx

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  22. Totally with you! I don't get half of what goes on with this stuff! The only 'stumble' I ever get is when I trip up the curb! if I logged onto, joined in with and linked up to, I'd never have time to eat, let alone write anything! I'm sorry you're giving up, whilst I haven't commented I have often read your blog and love your turn of phrase! Enjoy the season festivities with your loved ones and hopefully you'll be back someday! xx

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  23. Whatever you do, don't turn to housework - that's the slippery slope!

    I totally understand you. i can just about keep up with Twitter, Facebook and Pinterest but that's about it.

    Google + is a total mystery to me and as for all the other sites...

    I think it's best to do a small number of things and try to do them well, rather than do them all half-heartedly.

    Sounds like a break might be what your head needs right now, hopefully you'll be back in the New Year all fresh and bouncy! x

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  24. I'm so sorry to see you go :( I'll miss your blogs very much but I do hope it's just a break and not a permanent decision.
    I totally know where you're coming from, SEO is my personal hell, it makes no sense to me, I don't get it. I can manage social media but a lot of other tech stuff confuses me, fortunately I have friends who help me out of a lot of pickles when I mess stuff up!
    I think the important thing to remember is that you don't *have* to be part of all those groups and sites and whatever else, you can just carry on as you are, you already have a good following and those people will stick with you.
    I hope to see you back in the new year but if not I'll keep in touch via twitter and FB.
    xxxxxx

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  25. I don't think you should worry about all that - look where you've got to without knowing all that stuff, why worry about it if you can do well enough without it - just write for yourself. I think taking a break is a good idea & hopefully you'll get your mojo back in the new year xx

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  26. Do what suits you. Being a geeky author and for ever chasing fame on different media platforms is for the INSECURE writer who believes their only means of communication with readers is to be seen in every media shop window! But you know something, the same old same old faces in every shop window merely reveals that authors are in truth trapped in a closed world in which authors revolve. Even taking Goodreads into account, the majority of so-called readers on the site are writers, whether wannabes, mainstream published or self-published, and many masquerade under secondary false IDs to slight successful fellow authors. All are vying for attention one way and another, and some of the media platforms are turning the world of literature into a circus of clowns and knife throwers! Blogs are personal: an online diary of your thoughts, life's moments and perhaps your successes or that of others. Don't feel bullied because you choose to limit your media presence. Less is often more! ;)
    best
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    1. Right on, Francine. I agree. But you get caught up in the whirl of 'You've got to do this, go there, be seen here' and for some of us it's not just the time involved, it's the technical challenge which defeats us. gx

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  27. Do not under any circumstances consider housework.

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  28. Oh, please don't go. If you have plenty to say and enjoy blogging, then just stick to your blogging. Don't let the pressure that you have to have a presence or handle on every social media out there, push you away from what you enjoy. I like what you write. However, you are the third person, that I've started following, who has said they are leaving, I'm beginning to think I'm a curse. Everyone had different reasons for saying their goodbyes.

    I feel a bit like you, I can't get my head round google plus, never heard of Technorati or Wikio. Seen Reddit, Digg, StumbleUpon, LinkedIn, but haven't a clue what they are. Had a flickr account and don't use it anymore.

    First comes me, life and my family, that needs quality time. Then internet and social networking afterwards. I've given up taking any notice on what my ranking is on any list. You know what they say, "Lies, damned lies, and statistics." And from what I've seen, you have a great readership.

    For me, its all about time. I haven't the time to update and interact with all these platforms. I use Tweetdeck to view Twitter and whatever I tweet goes straight to my Facebook. I use instagram to share my photo's and they share them with Twitter. And I have a tumblr account, but just started using Pinterest. So, I'll see how that goes.

    I hope that this has helped you? If you have definitely decided to leave, then goodbye and I have enjoyed reading your blog, but if not, I'll alway help. I'm not a great techno whizz or very up to date with the lastest 'in thing', but I'll be supportive in however I can.

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  29. Don't go! Oh, OK, go and have a break and then come back knowing what *you* want to do.

    I removed myself from the vast majority of groups a couple of months ago and I feel fabulous for it. I'm blogging more (often on my illustration blog, rather than the parenting one, but it's still blogging), drawing more, reading more, and worrying a lot less about the other stuff. I'm using the social media I like to use, to the extent I want to - dipping in and out of Pinterest, because I look looking at pretty things, keeping up with my friends (on and offline) on Facebook, reading interesting articles I spot on Google+. But I'm keeping it to when and how I want it, rather then when and how I'm *supposed* to do it. And I'm enjoying it all much more.

    I'm also feeling the urge to blog about 'issues' more, rather than just post recipes and book reviews. Which I think is where I want to go with my blog. Which leads me to my main point...

    Taking a step back can really help you reassess what you want out of blogging (and other stuff).

    Good luck and I hope you don't go away for good, as I and many others would miss you.

    T xxx

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  30. I think I am your soul sister. Every day a new 'must have' gizmo is introduced. I don't recall (if I even grasped it at the time)what the TV ad yesterday was trying to sell - a physical item or a system - but the person was walking along the pavement watching a film on his palm held thingy. He walked into his property and ... bam ... the film continued to play on his flat screen wall mounted TV. I watched this and just felt ... tired. I can't imagine even WANTING to walk along watching a film in my hand, let alone getting my head around a system which would link my handheld tablet/phone/whatever it was, to my computer/TV.
    I have an old fashioned mobile phone that just makes calls and texts. It doesn't even have a camera. We do have two computers, one a desk top and one a laptop. Our emails ONLY comes to the desktop(and all the stuff I do is done on it in the study, where I spend most of my time). After several years of having a blog I am only just comfortable with blogging and uploading my text and my photos to it. But I've no idea about how to design a more interesting layout or how to add an RSS feed or anything extra in the way of gadgets.
    I am already exhausted by all the forums, platforms, groups that I try to keep up with ... and frequently make mistakes on (like leaving the dot com off the end of the links I post to try and promote myself!). I was on one forum where I kept getting told off because I regularly posted in the WRONG place! I simply didn't know what they meant by posting in a particular 'thread'. And yet, as you say, we are forever bombarded by advice that we should belong to further sites, where we should be promoting. The idea of adding more is likely to send me dulally.
    At least you do, or you have kept up your blog! I do NOTHING except answer emails and comment on all these different platforms/loops forums. I DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT TO CALL THEM! that I belong to.
    Although I am not a reviewer people occasionally send me their books. I have experienced problems moving these books into my Kindle. I made a concerted effort the other day to achieve this. I failed. Now what do I do?
    Like you, I feel I am going to have to draw some kind of line. There is stuff I can do and keep up with, but beyond that....
    Perhaps taking a break in all this social media stuff is the way to go, but I am ambitious. I believe I have something to say through my books EVEN IF I never write another one I have two to promote and another coming out next year. To have any hope of selling them I have got to keep going - and yet and yet - I forever feel I am falling short of all the things I could or should be doing. You've opened a can of worms here, CJ!

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  31. I really hope you come back, as I love your blog and look forward to the photo change on the header (snow please) Enjoy your break. hugs xxx

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  32. You know you don't need to do anything other than write in order to get people over here Kathryn, because thats why your a top blogger, some people love to have the competition that ranks bring, some people find it a complete pain, some people love to get to grips with all the social media sites, others don't want to... at the end of the day good writers with people who want to read what they have to say don't need to do anything but write.. and I know it doesn't make it any easier but really it is as simple as 'write because you want to, when you want to' I hope you enjoy your Christmas break.. but if you can't keep away we'll all be here waiting to read whatever you post whenever you do.. and we'll find you quite happily the way we do right now, we don't need you to google+ something or stumble over anything else x

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  33. Blogging needs people like you - real, honest everyday types. I emphasise.
    I can't be arsed with all the various ways and stuff to promote my blog.
    I gave up a while ago, I do twitter, I do FB. I do one group.
    The rest just isn't for me.
    I don't want to be in magazines, or top of the charts. I just enjoy that a small group of people read and comment. I think theres a place for that.
    I do hope you come back in January.
    In the meantime - enjoy December. X

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    1. couldn't agree more (and realise I haven't visited your blog in a ahile- slapped wrist!)

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  34. Hi CJ - sorry to hear you feel that way, however I totally understand. I cannot be arsed with all this "me too" stuff, jumping on the next bandwagon just so that I'm the top 250,000 blogs being read by someone.

    And this is coming from someone who works in IT! I've always felt that good content comes first and if you have good content people will find it. That's all Google cares about and quite frankly that's still where most people start looking for something.

    I write for the sake of writing, because I have something I want to say. If you want to read it, great, if you don't, it won't stop me writing it. It doesn't make the content any better or worse just because it's not listed on a certain site.

    So just carry on writing and don't worry about where or how you "have" to be.

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  35. The mom here - so much of what you have said reflects a lot of the feelings I have had. I finally figured out that I just don't have time to learn all the stuff I "should" learn to "make my blog grow" I would love to do more with my blog - use all the new techo-crap coming through the wires but what with working full time and dealing with my own possible ADD, it just is not gonna happen. Instead, I remember that I am doing this blogging stuff because it is something for ME. You have a great blog - just the way it is. You have a lot of supporters and followers here. The posts you write are interesting and kinda thought provoking in different ways. I follow you, I read your posts - I just don't have time to comment very much at all - anywhere on any blog I follow and I hate that but that's my life. I do what I can. And what Gilli Allen said - I would love to have some of those tech gadgets and know how to link all together but I just don't have the time or money. What I accomplish on my blog is for the most part, for my enjoyment - I'm still totally surprised I have the followers I do and people actually read what I write and want to leave comments - I think of that as bonuses.

    I do totally understand why you have taken this break - I am on a short one myself simply because other things in my life take precedence right now - I don't have time for my own blog - I hope I can get back to it in a day or so. Right now, I need to go get ready for work. I hope that after your break, you will find that you miss it and will return. Do it for YOU and do with it what YOU can and NOT what others say you need to do to "make your blog grow". Fact is, your blog is super fine just the way it is.
    Kim

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  36. I know how you feel. I dont 'get' all the techie stuff either and I agree that there seems to be more & more bloggy places added weekly and I struggle to keep up but I visit the ones I like and feel comfortable in and try not to worry about it and I ignore any bitchiness (it goes right over my head). Infact I couldnt give a monkeys about what I'm supposed to be doing.

    I love blogging and I do it for my kids, no-one else. I enjoy writing the odd sponsored posts for treats but predominantly my blog is for the family to read back on in years to come, our memory keeper.

    Ive often wanted to go self hosted, right up until recently but I thought to myself that Blogger works for me and has done for over 4 years so why change?

    You are one of my fav bloggers so I do hope you return, enjoy your break x

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  37. Aww gutted to be not reading your blog for a month at least. I wholeheartedly get the whole explanation and feel the same at times. Its hard to just get on and blog and not drown in the popularity race that seems to have sprung up more this year. Will see you about on FB and Twitter I'm sure, have a really good month off or a permanent break, whichever it is you will bee missed. Have a lovely Christmas too.
    x Jo Bryan

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  38. I get the impression from this that you feel you have to keep up with the 'Blogging Joneses' - not true honey, blog for you it's what you do best. xx

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  39. I can only echo what so many other commenters have already said but I couldn't read this and not add my support too. I think a break can sometimes be a good thing and I've had a couple myself over the years. I really hope to see you back in January though for completely selfish reasons because I would miss your blog terribly! x

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  40. I post to my blog far less than I used to because people seem to be on Facebook and Twitter much more, but I still enjoy it. Enjoy your break, but please come back when you're ready. x

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  41. I was just thinking about coming back to blogging as a 3 years break lol, but you've put me right off lol

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  42. sorry should have read 'after a 3 year' see I can't even type anymore! PS at least you've mastered Twitter, I don't even get that!

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  43. Your blog is one I've read for a long time. I can understand what you are saying and I hope that you take the break and want to come back. But if not that's fine to as you have to do what you feel is right. I know you'll be there on twitter to chat to. Take care lovely xxx

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  44. You don't need all those peripherals. Your writing is good and that's what matters; that's what draws your readers. "If you write it, they will come"!

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  45. Don;t leave me.......*wails* *clings to your legs in unattractive, downright pitiful, fashion* I love you soooo much *sobs* *wipes trails of snot across cheeks*

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  46. I really hope you come back after a break. Sometimes you just need to focus elsewhere within your life. I do find all of the platforms mind boggling and wonder how on earth people juggle them - some seem to be in on all of them! I'd never leave the computer if I was even to attempt working out most of them. Your writing is what brings people to your blog and you are also great blogger in the community, who shouts out about posts that you have liked and want others to read. Hopefully we'll see you in the new year :-) x

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  47. I totally know where you are coming from. I remember reading an article from another blogger stating that she promotes her blog 4 hours a day. That just doesn't work for me. I do what I think is reasonable and what I can handle. I think that quality is much more important. I will miss reading your blog over the next month. However, I do get where you are coming from. I am just glad from reading these comments that there are many of us bloggers out there that feel the same.

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  48. I've been having similar thoughts lately. I don't have an inclination to quite blogging quite yet, but I was gearing up to write a post about all the RULES. I mean, I'm always trying to gain exposure for my blog and get more followers, likers, etc - but to what end? I don't exactly have a product I'm selling. I am not out to change the world or gain awareness for big issues (though I do try to do my bit). And I've seen bloggers with 0 PR and no followers get just as much opportunity to work with brands as I have. So why do I work so hard to promote myself?

    I suspect that I'll have a bit of a break when the new baby comes in a few weeks, but I know I'll fret about losing readers. How is that helpful to a new mother? We're all getting far too caught up in blogging as a business, I think. I wish I could just forget all the promotion and focus on writing, but I don't have the guts at the moment.

    I really do hope to see you back come January, though. xx

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  49. Frankly you are more tecnically advanced than me - I don't even do Twitter, tried to get in to their site, failed to understand what it was all about and what I was supposed to do and left again, vowing never to go there again. I am content with just the blog and don't care how many or if any people read it at all, so have no desire to promote it anywhere else. Don't feel pressured to do anything you are not happy with, but if you cease blogging, I shall certainly miss you!

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  50. It's a real shame that you feel this way. I've always looked to you as someone who feels so strongly about blogging for the sheer love of blogging. It's a refreshing attitude because it's so easy to get carried away with rankings, working with PRs and brands etc. and I admite you for resisting it all. I hope you're back in the New Year with a vengeance

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  51. CJ,

    Don't give up, i love reading your blog. I completely understand where you're coming from. I have no idea on all the technical side of this either. As i have said i write purely to vent my thoughts. Whether people are reading them or not is a small part of it. I have checked my stats at times and found that some of my posts don't get one person reading them. The first time i saw this i did wonder why and thought of ways i could change it to get readers, but then realistically i would have to change myself to get more readers. I have 26 followers and it hasn't increased in a long time. I have no idea how to get more either.

    I do hope you come back to it in January. In the meantime, enjoy the break, do things you enjoy and have a wonderful Christmas and New Year with your treasured family

    C X

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  52. I am proof positive that your blogging style is welcome and appreciated; me and the 51 comments before mine. Your writing style is fresh and interesting. Forget the technical mumbo jumbo crap and continue to blog for the sheer joy it brings. Or, if it truly doesn't bring you joy, then stop. But don't stop because of someone else's ideals and expectations.

    I was once a passionate blogger. I stopped blogging two years ago but enjoy visiting my favorite blogs daily. It brings me comfort, much like dropping in to see an old friend. My social media has changed from Blogger (they cut off my ability to post pics unless I pony up $$ to upgrade)to FaceBook. I haven't, nor will I, join other social media venues (Twitter, LinkedIn, etc.). Don't want 'em, don't need 'em.

    Bottom line is do what you want. Do what makes you happy. I do hope, however, that you return to blogging in January.

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  53. People read you because they love hearing about you, your thoughts and your life on the farm with your family. You are the only blogger I know who at some point has not been 'bought' and I have enormous respect for that. Stay true to yourself, please come back to blogging (when you're ready) and don't hide away from us all. Ignore the 'gurus' because they aren't; we're all just people.

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  54. Why do you care that some other bloggers are using advanced computer technology to promote their blogs? You, like me and most of my bloggy friends, write what's on our minds, send it to fb and twitter, and then enjoy the discussions on our own blogs and on others. Do you even want to be a featured blogger in the Daily Mail or need to be the highest ranking blogger in the UK. Geeky games are for people who are blogging for fame and fortune not for those of us who just need to write and enjoy the company. Ignore all the techy stuff and just write (after your well earned rest of course). See you here in January. I'm actually very interested to know how a significant break works out and feels. Him Up North stipped blogging completely after a 2-week break. I hope that doesn't happen to you.

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  55. I really hope to see you refreshed and raring to go in January, but if you need more time etc leave it until later if you need to. I hope you really enjoy this break - I am going to really slow down now too until Xmas is over - I find myself too tired at this time of year. Don't worry about social media - most of it is over hyped - I don't really use it that often - I have a couple of favourites (facebook and twitter) and leave it at that. Blog to write ... and leave it at that - as you can see, there are so many people out here who really appreciate your words. Rest well. X.

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  56. You come into your own when you write your blog and comment on everyone else's. You're brilliant with the newbies and were on of the first to comment on mine. I agree with Gemma, there's a place for that. It's what makes most of us happy / tick. We don't need or want the other stuff. As a single mums I might take the opportunity to earn some cash and I can't do that on blogger, so am going to transfer to self-hosted - well, someone (@liveotherwise, Jax Blunt above) is going to do it on my behalf because I just can't. I 'll let you know how stress free it is for me, just so you can publish those wonderful pics and continue to be yourself *crosses everything* XXX

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  57. I don't understand most of those platforms you mentioned and I'm 18, meaning that because of my generation I'm supposed to be internet savy. There's nothing to be upset about. You don't like them, you don't use them, simple enough.

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  58. Wow! Great responses....Mine? EAT MORE CHOCOLATE!!Hahaaaa....
    I'm 61 and pooped, but I'll keep on blogging AND learning because I Want to.
    You Have to WANT to is all.... Do You?
    See 'ya on the flip side sweetie!
    hughugs

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  59. Good luck with the break. Hopefully we'll see you back blogging in January.

    I find that there's just not time to do all these things. I don't even do much on my FB page as I want to spend my time on FB talking to my online mum friends as that's my only opportunity to do that. I can just about manage to dip into twitter occasionally, but don't really get involved in lots of conversations as I can't spend hours on there.

    As long as I enjoy my blog that'll be fine, and it will have to be as I have the day job and want to still manage to do things with the family.

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  60. I'm another one who'll miss you but I completely get why you need a break, I hope you'll be back soon x x

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  61. I completely understand what you are saying in relation to the technology overload. Out of Technorati, Wikio, Reddit, Google Plus, Digg, Flickr, StumbleUpon, LinkedIn I only use google+ and that is simply clicking the button at the end of my post to add it to my page to promote! I know very little about the others and I'm not really interested in using them either.

    All the best and I hope you have a fab Christmas x x

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  62. I think a break is a great idea. I've only been blogging for a year this month, but I took a break from my blog in the summer - to work on a website I was creating, so bit of a busman's holiday but still - and I've just started in the last month to get back to blogging and am so much more excited about it again. I hope you do come back, if you are blogging for you rather than for all the other stuff then all you need do is blog and maybe a bit of Twitter and Facebook.

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  63. I doubt I can add anything that hasn't already been said. I haven't even heard of half of those things but then I never I feel in in any situation anyway. I guess you just have to do it because you enjoy it and if you don't then a break is probably best.

    Hope to see you back soon if you do decide to have a break.

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  64. Oh my, I thought I was never going to reach the end and add my two pennies worth! What a huge support you have on here, take heart from it all and I hope you will be back in full blogging force with or without all the social media technical baggage. I am totally with you in that I am not technical, but neither am I well established, I find every day I am learning and being confused by new platforms, but really only manage twitter and facebook with any success. You are so not alone but so many enjoy your blog anyway I'm not sure you need all the other sales platforms.

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  65. I'm so sad to read this but have to say that i totally understand. It is too competitive. It can get too much. I think a break is a great idea but please make sure you come back! XX

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  66. Your fantastic posts will be missed CJ but enjoy December - who knows what life has in store for you! Take it easy (and leave the housework, it will always be there!). xxx

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  67. Enjoy the break and hope you come back refreshed. You are a natural not commercial blogger so don't lose you! It's only those of us that need to chase the stats that ought to worry ;-)

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  68. No! No CJ, please don't give up. This is exactly what I've been saying recently about people giving up their loved hobby just because people think these lists matter and these sites matter. They don't. I have never ever got Wikio, Technorati or Reddit, Digg, Stumbleupon or the list thing which I wont name or get a shit storm again.

    I am past caring about any of these things, and I wish everyone would feel the same, then we could go back to the olden days of just opening a net page, writing a blog post and letting it sit, where it was, until someone found it and said hi. I hate the competition for hits (I don't even know what my hit rate is and seldom care, I doubt with the nature of blogging these days that anyone is honest about hits to brands, and I don't get asked for mine anymore as I've established friendships with people now anyway).

    I would hate to see you leave blogging. Absolutely makes me cross as anything that yet another talented, lovely person is even considering giving up to do boring old housework because of the reasons you list above.

    You know where I am if you need me, but maybe its time to set up the "Anti Competition League"?

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  69. A break is a great thing, just see how you feel after CJ. I am having a chilled Dec and more so in January as well and I love taking a break, it gives me the desire to write again.

    I have made decisions just not to bother with many of the new patforms and communities as I don't have the time/ know-how to do that.

    Hope you have a fab Dec. Mich x

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  70. Its not possible to take part in every social media thing that's out there. There's just not enough hours in the day. I would say you do very well and you have a fantastic blog so I hope you come back refreshed. The main thing is to concentrate on what you are good at, and you are very good at blogging. Never mind all the rest, it'll only drive you daft.

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  71. Have a break and see how you feel. You are writing your book and it is difficult to keep up both. You aren't supposed to be a social marketeer. Come back if and when you are ready. xxx

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  72. I'm really sorry to hear this.
    Hoping that a little break will get things in perspective for you.
    Will miss you as I don't do Facebook or Twitter.
    Maggie X

    Nuts in May

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  73. Late to the party as ever! You encouraged me when I had just started blogging so I hold you very dear in my heart. I think a blogging break will be really beneficial. Sometimes I feel overwhelmed with all the social networking. Looking forward to seeing you back with a vengeance.

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  74. Reading all the comments above I think we should start an old fashioned bloggers club - facebook and twitter only and sod the rest of the social stuff and most of the stats and crap! You are not alone (in fact I may join you on a December holiday!) Please don't go forever though x

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    1. oh and lets face it most 'real people' (non bloggers) don't have a clue about all this stuff - most of my real life friends barely know what twitter is let alone stumbleupon or digg it or tumblr or anything else - some of them are not even on facebook - I know shock horror - these people do actually exist in flesh and blood!!

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  75. Oh my lovely CJ, what can I say? I'll miss your writing but totally get your reasons why. All this petty jealousy, stat bullshit and brands pitting bloggers against each other to win prizes is so n a good thing for the blogging community. The only winner are the brands and I strongly feel that brands are now "getting" that blogs are a worthwhile media platform rather than a box to tick.

    I regularly take a break and only do Facebook/twitter as well.

    Enjoy your time off, maybe we really should plan our "bloggers blogger" awards.?!


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  76. Enjoy your break. I hope you come back. I have enjoyed reading your post. I personally wish I had more time to work on my post. I only promote my blogs in the few places. If someone like my blog or post they will share it with their family and friends.

    I do not do Facebook or twitter. Blogging is what I enjoy the most.

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  77. I hope it is just a break; as you can see, you will be missed by so many if not. I just realised I tweeted you on my mobile instead of leaving a comment as I was away at the weekend, and now I've realised the irony of that!! So with this I just want to say thank you for being so helpful and welcoming when I first started blogging over 3 years ago. I've never reached your heady heights and never will, and I totally understand what you mean about slipping behind with the technology. Not only do I not 'get' it all, I just do not have the time and am baffled as to how others do! Anyhow I hope you relax and destress over Christmas (and for heavens sake do not feel you have to reply to all these comments!!!!) x

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  78. Hi CJ, sorry to hear you're feeling like this but I totally get how you feel. It is hard not to get fed up with the pressure to do use every bit of technology going, to join groups and to fight for awards. I can only manage my blog and twitter and a litle bit of google plus but anything else I just dont have the time for. Anyway, I hope you enjoy your break and come back refreshed and ready to blog again. For the time being, have a great Christmas. Deb x

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  79. Enjoy your break! Nothing like a spot of housework to send you back to blogging....
    And incidentally, there is a little (free) program called irfanview (at www.irfanview.com) that lets you downsize your photos really easily so you don't run into size limit problems on your blog. It is an open source program, which means it was created by techie people for free for everyone to use ... and to give their friends. Good luck!

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  80. Please forgive me for not replying to each comment, but I've read them all and appreciate, very much, your kind words of support and encouragement to return to blogging.

    Thank you for being so understanding towards my decision. I'm sure I'll return to blogging and will be taking your suggestions and advice on board in so far as I won't be stressing anymore about joining networks that I know I don't need to be a part of.

    Best wishes, CJ x

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  81. Great minds think alike! I am also going to have to have a break from blogging.

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  82. Well I didn't know any of those techie sites you mentioned but I know the feeling of being left out! I am too outspoken for my own good - as you know but we won't go there again! - and most people, whilst saying they want honesty, can't actually take my brand of it.
    I love writing, and find my needs satisfied with long letters to friends, and I mean l-o-n-g! I also like my little blogs, which you haven't seen I don't think but which satisfy my need to sometimes moan about something, or get views on something else and so on. But I only blog about once or twice a month at most, not regular like you. I can see that if I did it all the time, it would become Boring, and I would give up. I have had several blogs in the past, proof of the fact I get bored and take off for a while. Having a break does you good, you come back with a fresh mind, a different outlook after a break. You may decide you've had enough, full stop. Which will be a pity. But it's down to you, what feels right for You.
    So have a good Christmas with your family CJ, and if you don't blog again, your decision will be respected.
    Take care.

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  83. I truly understand how you feel. I visited a new blog yesterday, and couldn't even comment, because I didn't belong to the right 'platforms'.

    I think a break will do you good. I've taken 2 (or 3, even), each several weeks long, and each time, I've wanted to come back, and I've felt refreshed.

    Blogging used to be all about the writing, and it still can be - but only if you do it on your own terms, for your own interest, and don't worry about league tables, rankings, forums, numbers of comments, etc.

    Have a good Christmas and New Year.

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  84. Well, I for one love to read your blog! I think you have a lot of valuable information to share... insight, and I just find you writing interesting and thought provoking. While I wish you wouldn't go away "blogging that is", I totally understand, as I have taken a lot of breaks. Sorry you are having troubles... I wish you the best!

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  85. I agree with New Mum/Liska - Just because it's all out there doesn't mean it's all right for you. You have a great base of followers, you don't need everything. It's like religion. Whatever works for you is good, but no one is meant to be a follower of every religion in the world.

    Hope you come back, love your blog - but enjoy your break! :)
    Jess

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  86. You certainly are no 'has - been! See how many commented on your blog? I'd LOVE to have that. Clearly people LOVE your blog! Well done - enjoy the rest.

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  87. Ooh, so glad to hear that it is not just me that is overwhelmed with all of these 'added extras' that come along with blogging. I signed off blogging at the end of November too and have actually found that I barely even look at twitter or facebook now.

    Really hope you are having a super rest from blogging and you have a very happy Christmas xxx

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  88. Hi CJ, am sorry to read this but I think we all need a proper break from blogging from time to time, I have had one for long enough! I stopped for similar reasons but have now realised it just doesn't matter about the technical stuff, it's the writing and being true to yourself that really matters. I really hope you come back with a vengeance in jan, and in the meantime have a wonderful December and Christmas xxx

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  89. I feel a bit like you, I don't have a clue as to how SEO works or any of these other things. so I just blog for those who enjoy it enough to pop over for a little read anyway. I hope you come back with your mojo renewed :) Have a lovely Christmas x

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  90. Too many comments for me to read so forgive me if I'm being repetitive, I think the simple fact that you have had so many replies to this post is reason enough that you don't need to learn about those 'platforms' content is what you do best and it's obvious that you are well read and loved. Enjoy your break. I'll look forward to your return.

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  91. Just do what your comfortable with and no need to jump on the latest bandwagons.

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  92. i understand how you are feeling, but for me, it wasn't cos of technology. i was bored with blogging. it also started to feel too much like a chore. i didn't like having to think of witty, intelligent, thoughtful, etc., posts (which most of mine weren't anyways)on a daily basis. it wasn't fun for me. i even stopped visiting all the great blogs on my blog roll. i just visited a few tonight, and it seems a lot of them have abandoned blogging, too. i rarely go on twitter, though i'm getting back to it a little bit now, and i find myself a bit bored with facebook. i go on fb daily, and i also have a tumblr blog. with tumblr, i don't have to worry about coming up with lengthy posts, i can reblog whatever looks cool, and i can make posts about absolutely nothing if i want to. it gets a bit boring, too. i wanted to try to start getting back into my blog, but i have a custom url, so it was down for a little over two weeks. i felt my momentum go right out the window when that happened. i think that the only way anyone who's abandoned blogging can go back to it again, is if they start to love it the way they once did. i don't know if i'll ever 'love' it, but i don't mind it so much now. just not sure if it will ever be a full-time thing for me again. you'll have it all sorted i'm sure. in the meantime, enjoy your break. sometimes not blogging can be good.

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