A lovely lady on Facebook inadvertently prompted me to write this post today, when she aired her frustrations at her son's name being spelled wrong on official forms and documents. I can 100% empathize with her because apart from the reason there is no excuse to spell her son's name wrong, I have also had this issue all my life. There are of course several ways to spell Kathryn, and I think the most popular one is Catherine or Katherine. But my parents chose to spell my name with a 'K' and ending in 'ryn' for a reason; because they are my parents and that was their choice. Legal forms throughout my life have obviously been filled in by me as 'Kathryn' yet I still receive correspondence from official organisations addressed to Katherine Brown. I get emails on a daily basis addressed to Katherine, emails that have come from companies that say they love my blog and read it regularly, yet the About Me page that these companies claim they've seen has in bold letters above the bio, Kathryn Brown.
It may be pedantic to some and many of you might think I'm lucky if this is all I have to worry about in life, but it's actually very frustrating. Of course there have been and most likely will continue to be many times when people will use the incorrect spelling of my name and I am grown up enough to know that it's inevitable when one has been given a name that could be spelled in different ways. There is a time and a place to turn a blind eye and move on, but when legal and official documents have used the wrong spelling yet you have obviously spelled your name right yourself, why do they think they have a right to choose the spelling for you? Laziness, arrogance, carelessness... What is it that makes people ignore the correct spelling of a name, even when it's written down in front of them?
The lady's son whom I spoke about earlier has autism. He is a beautiful little boy who could perhaps become confused if he sees different spellings of his name. And the mad thing about this is the people spelling his name wrong are the people who are teaching him in an educational environment. My Facebook friend received several replies all indicating that they have the same problem. Personally, I find that really worrying.